The Back-Up Man

Now, from a WOMAN... an untold truth.

Most single (as in unmarried) woman will always have a back-up man, or two. Even in committed relationships and casual relationships, even when we claim we're not looking for anything at all. We always know a man, and keep in some-what contact with a man, who we know on a whim will boost our self-esteem and make us feel desirable or perhaps jump in the sheets for a midnight hay ride. This is the man we keep in the rafters. Often labeled as the "friend." But, keeping to the policy that men cannot be just friends with women under normal circumstances, they really aren't just "friends." If there is a sexual attraction there, even if not acted upon, or a flirtation. If we seek out this man "friend" of ours for some self-esteem fulfillment purpose, then gentleman, beware. Us women know when we can have a man. We know if a man finds us sexy or desires us, even if he is the kind of man who wont act upon it. And we will seek him out if we are angry with you, we will delvuge our relationship issues to him and have him analyze them for us, we will get high on his compliments and we will wonder what a relationship would be like with him. This man is generally the "good guy that finishes last" for we know he holds a flame, and we know if we play our cards right we can have him hold that flame indefinately. Wrong? Yes, perhaps, but true.