Most single (as in unmarried) woman will always have a back-up man, or two. Even in committed relationships and casual relationships, even when we claim we're not looking for anything at all. We always know a man, and keep in some-what contact with a man, who we know on a whim will boost our self-esteem and make us feel desirable or perhaps jump in the sheets for a midnight hay ride. This is the man we keep in the rafters. Often labeled as the "friend." But, keeping to the policy that men cannot be just friends with women under normal circumstances, they really aren't just "friends." If there is a sexual attraction there, even if not acted upon, or a flirtation. If we seek out this man "friend" of ours for some self-esteem fulfillment purpose, then gentleman, beware. Us women know when we can have a man. We know if a man finds us sexy or desires us, even if he is the kind of man who wont act upon it. And we will seek him out if we are angry with you, we will delvuge our relationship issues to him and have him analyze them for us, we will get high on his compliments and we will wonder what a relationship would be like with him. This man is generally the "good guy that finishes last" for we know he holds a flame, and we know if we play our cards right we can have him hold that flame indefinately. Wrong? Yes, perhaps, but true.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
A Helpful Hint.....Here's a freebie girls
Alright here's another guy's perspective for you so you ladies will have a better understanding of us guys. When a girl and a guy are getting to know each other, there are usually 3 common things you will hear a girl say. Now none of these are good things to say but still they are used way to frequently. So if you're a girl, and i guarantee you say at least one of these, please stop saying these, they don't work.
1) "I GET ALONG WITH GUYS BETTER THEN GIRLS" now no guy ever wants to hear that. its basically stating that guys are constantly flirting with you and you are constantly flirting back. No guy wants to think that you go places with a bunch of dudes and hang out with them. and then we wonder why don't you get along with girls, is there some personality trait (insanity perhaps?) that we have yet to discover that you have? A guy wants a girl who has girl friends and preferably no guy friends at all. I know that's close to impossible to find but that's what we want.
2) "I AM EASY GOING OR NOT HIGH MAINTENANCE I AM NOT LIKE MOST GIRLS" just saying this makes you like most girls. trust me....you all say this. Let us determine that before you label yourself the greatest ever. and high maintenance in a girl is usually unknown by the person themselves. What if you are picky in where you like to eat, or don't like watching movies of a particular genre, or don't like your guy wearing certain brands or something, then guess what...your high maintenance!! Guys hate when a girl says this cause it makes us feel like you think we should be thankful we found someone "different". because honestly, sad to say, you probably are like most girls especially if you have said this line.
3) "I DON'T CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!" this one gets to me on a personal level, cause all women care what other people think, all people do in general actually. If you didn't you wouldn't be wearing the same brands, put on makeup, give you opinion on anything during a discussion and so forth. And to be honest we want a girl that does care what people thinks and admits this. I mean not to the point where it controls here but she has to be mildly concerned. That way she doesn't wear some crazy unattractive clothing on a date cause she is "comfortable" That way she doesn't start yelling at you in the middle of a movie theatre because you guys are fighting cause she doesn't care if people stare. Just stuff like that we don't want to happen. So trust me, we know you care what people think, we do too, and we both like it.
There you go girls, follow this and you are on your way and if you do use these three quotes, i am sorry but they need to be never used again and that's the Untold Truth!!
1) "I GET ALONG WITH GUYS BETTER THEN GIRLS" now no guy ever wants to hear that. its basically stating that guys are constantly flirting with you and you are constantly flirting back. No guy wants to think that you go places with a bunch of dudes and hang out with them. and then we wonder why don't you get along with girls, is there some personality trait (insanity perhaps?) that we have yet to discover that you have? A guy wants a girl who has girl friends and preferably no guy friends at all. I know that's close to impossible to find but that's what we want.
2) "I AM EASY GOING OR NOT HIGH MAINTENANCE I AM NOT LIKE MOST GIRLS" just saying this makes you like most girls. trust me....you all say this. Let us determine that before you label yourself the greatest ever. and high maintenance in a girl is usually unknown by the person themselves. What if you are picky in where you like to eat, or don't like watching movies of a particular genre, or don't like your guy wearing certain brands or something, then guess what...your high maintenance!! Guys hate when a girl says this cause it makes us feel like you think we should be thankful we found someone "different". because honestly, sad to say, you probably are like most girls especially if you have said this line.
3) "I DON'T CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!" this one gets to me on a personal level, cause all women care what other people think, all people do in general actually. If you didn't you wouldn't be wearing the same brands, put on makeup, give you opinion on anything during a discussion and so forth. And to be honest we want a girl that does care what people thinks and admits this. I mean not to the point where it controls here but she has to be mildly concerned. That way she doesn't wear some crazy unattractive clothing on a date cause she is "comfortable" That way she doesn't start yelling at you in the middle of a movie theatre because you guys are fighting cause she doesn't care if people stare. Just stuff like that we don't want to happen. So trust me, we know you care what people think, we do too, and we both like it.
There you go girls, follow this and you are on your way and if you do use these three quotes, i am sorry but they need to be never used again and that's the Untold Truth!!
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
#1 Rule in a Guy and Girl Relationship: WE CANNOT BE FRIENDS!!
Okay hello to all who have come seeking the truth. I am here to give you a guy's mentality in all subjects and I know you think all guys are different but most of the time we are not. Now some minor details might be different but mostly not. And the first thing I have to let you girls know is this: WE CANNOT BE FRIENDS!! GUYS AND GIRLS CANNOT BE FRIENDS!! Ever!! Now after reading that, every girl is gonna do 2 things automatically: 1) say in their mind or out loud that this is not true 2) think in their head of a guy or two that they are "friends" with. Now do this after; eliminate each "friend" you've slept with cause you're not friends, he's just waiting for a possible another go. Eliminate any exes cause you didn't start as friends you were attracted and so you're not friends cause attraction doesn't go away, at least not for guys. Once a girl is hot, she will always be hot in a guys' mind. Eliminate any guy you have "grown up with" cause that doesn't matter to a guy, even if he knew you when you were 3, it doesn't matter to him, he is attracted to you either personality wise or physically and either way would start something if the situation presented itself. Oh yeah and eliminate any guys that are with your friend or cousin cause they only reason you guys know each other is through that person and honestly if he jokes with you a lot or something like that he probably "would" given a chance or a fight between him and his girl. Now I ask you, whats left?? Nothing, see my point. its impossible! and that my friends is an ugly truth!
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